I don’t think there is one person on earth who does not like money; understandably so because it really is part of our daily lives. The food we eat, clothes we wear, roofs over our heads & a whole lot of other things are possible with money.
I am happy that a lot of women today understand that money is important in our lives and are working hard in making it. This is making us – the current generation stand out from the past generations that had no basis to understand the power of money.
Having worshiped money above; I have realized that it has got so much power to an extent that one would lose her values/beliefs/standards over it. I am bringing this topic on a women's blog because based on my findings – females are the ones who are likely to lose themselves for money. Some of the reasons behind this “loss of self” by women are justified; but is it how it should be or we just don’t care much about our principles. One friend of mine once said to me “Principles don’t pay bills”.
Do you find that you were raised in a certain way but are living differently all in the name of money? Are you sleeping with a man that you don’t even know the color of his eyes because you can’t even look at him – you are just “on a job” with him? Another woman I know once said – “How disgusting is an old flabby man with veins on top you – you feel like throwing up!” She clearly did not like the picture she created for her eyes; but it was taking care of her chosen lifestyle for sure.
Women are stuck in unloving, abusive relationships because the men in power are making their lives easier with money. Wives are happy with marriages with little or no respect & their men are getting away with bad behavior as they ‘pay’ their ways around. You are being cheated on repeatedly by your partner with little or no remorse for it & money is fixing this for you. You constantly in receipt of foul talks that are brushed-off with what you need - Money.
Are we so caught up in material things to a point that our morals & integrity are meaningless to us? Is enjoying someone else's money more important than your health? You will sure get this comfortable lifestyle but it will be accompanied by diseases.
You are probably a product of single parenting but you are willing to conceive a married man’s child because of money – SAD.
Ladies; men's power lies with money but ours is in values. If you lose your values you are nothing as a woman, it does not matter how much money you make. You might even end up being nothing to the man you are willing to lose them for!
Understand your self-worth, demand respect, and insist on a healthy lifestyle. View money as a blessing on you & thank your God for it.
Let no man steal Power from you!
Tamara Booi
Whow! You have definately touched a cord, my belief, I might be wrong is that with all the issues or reasons that might lead to women remaining in abusive relationships or under value (ng) themselves, the underlying factor is more than wanting a flashy life style. I agree with you on the loss of self in the process, and it might be that the foundation of self is built on not so strong beliefs about the worth of a woman or a girl child. I believe that it is important to learn at an early stage, to embrace and think more about " sweating" (used figuratively) for our achievements and not base our lives on greed and quick fix solutions that in most cases are in tension with our values. Worshiping of matereal things, I observe gives rise to selfishness, unhealthy competetion among other things, and a society that is growing in individualism and conceat. For me, there can be no fulfiment or happiness in that kind of situation) In other words it changes our world view.
ReplyDeleteI am encouraging all women out there to understand their God given Power and influence to build the world through families, organizations, society and anywhere we can find a woman! Let us rise and not under estimate ourselves.
The words of the Bible teaches us to be good and to be rich in good deeds, to be courageaous and willing to share. And this begins with our families of which, in the contrary, we seem to be engrossed on the nuclear family concept. I do not in any way suggest that women must become Father Christmas, however in most cases we need to be doing more for our families. Love and care to me is spelt T I M E.
If we blindly follow our insticts and want to live comfortably no matter what the consequences, then we we would be destroying the building blocks of Ubuntu, generosity, selflessness and love of the other.
It is good to have money and enjoy what it can do for us, however let us remember who we are and let us continually seek to understand our purpose on this planet as women and let us continue to seek wisdom so as to be able to fulfil that purpose. Remember, we are blessed so as to be a blessing to others.!
As a man (well one with no money) I fully agree with your article. Whats weird is that even career successful women fall into this trap. As a father of a little girl, i know this is some of the values I need to instill in her that "money cannot buy you happiness"....
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