Uncover your purpose!

Are you independent; educated; have a partner who adores you & a family who loves you the most but still vacant inside?

People often say successful, single and independent women are empty within as they need a partner to fill that hole in their souls. Opinions further claim that housewives in wealthy marriages are also empty inside as their emotional needs are generally not met. To some degree these opinions can be true but I have got a different view on this.

I am yet to meet a driven career woman who is filled by just having a partner by her side; or a housewife that is filled by emotional security having no clue on how she will pay her household bills!

Ladies; we are all on earth to serve a purpose and every single individual has got a unique purpose in life. If being single and career driven is what you enjoy – it is probably your purpose - recognize that and embrace it. The same goes for those that enjoy being at home, raising kids & running their homes. Do not get confused by what people think should be your purpose; only you knows what you really enjoy doing.

Knowing your purpose can eliminate a lot of bad relationships and can decrease the high divorce rates. It can also boost the level of service in our country & the quality of expertise in many industries. Just because your friend is an advocate & you’ve got the means to go and get that profession does not necessary mean you will make it as an advocate – because it’s not your purpose. You can be the worst advocate in town & add to a list of qualified infertile advocates in our country.

Our parents taught most of us that marriage is a reputable goal for every woman; and I agree. However, what most left out is the ability to choose a marriage that you will best serve. What are you saying now Tamara? A career driven woman may not best serve an emotionally empty partner. Marriage for these two might be difficult to maintain as individual needs may not be fully met. For a career woman; it may always be about the bigger picture – how much they can achieve in life & the kind of lifestyle they can enjoy. For a poignant 8-5 partner in this scenario; the world cannot move on without the inner satisfaction desired by the heart. Now, would you be serving this marriage best? I don’t think so – as you would be trying to serve someone else’s purpose. One would say it’s all about compromise, but you can be able to efficiently exercise compromise on a solid foundation - where both parties share similar goals. In my opinion; even those who are serving their purpose in their partnerships will have to compromise somehow but compromise may be rather difficult where one doesn't even relate to why he/she's being compromised.

Society has got all the opinions on what a woman is suppose to do & how, break that stereo-type and discover your true purpose. Know what you like, do it & enjoy the fruits that come with that; because you can only excel when you are doing what you enjoy. You were created to serve a certain purpose; just because it’s so unique from those of your peers does not necessary mean it is wrong.

You might be constantly failing on your personal growth, career & relationships just because you are busy trying to be someone you are not. Unleash who you truly are and start living accordingly!



Tamara Booi