http://www.parent24.com/Toddler_1-2/development_behaviour/The-power-of-a-parents-word-20100506
Tamara Booi
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
What type of boy are you raising?
http://www.parent24.com/Preschool_2-6/development_behaviour/What-type-of-boy-are-you-raising-20091120
Tamara Booi
Tamara Booi
It's not what you look at that matters - It's what you see
Hello beautiful ladies!
On a lighter note.....
I was talking to my colleague the other day and it was really amusing to understand how she hates the fact that her man looks at other females while driving with her. She further admits that it gets to her even worse when the other lady is fine looking! I am a woman too and hell yeah I don't want no man of mine studying other females - fact.
However, here's what I've discovered - Is it really what he looks at that we worried about or is it probably what we think he sees in that other person that actually matters? While you still figuring that out (cause you probably don't even know why you keep revving yourself about it) I would like us to get involved in the looking - throw comments like "I think she's pretty" "Look at her behind - cute" "I don't really like the hairstyle though, I think if it was curled it would have been nice"
Let us know after a couple of times you engage him in light conversations about his observations. You will be surprised how much you will pick up to your advantage if you adopt this exercise! Remember, our goal is to arrive in a world of less heartaches & less offending behaviors. Your heart depends on you - you need to do everything in your power to protect it, he ain't going to do that for you!
Don't forget to keep looking at those hot guys too ;-)
Tamara Booi
On a lighter note.....
I was talking to my colleague the other day and it was really amusing to understand how she hates the fact that her man looks at other females while driving with her. She further admits that it gets to her even worse when the other lady is fine looking! I am a woman too and hell yeah I don't want no man of mine studying other females - fact.
However, here's what I've discovered - Is it really what he looks at that we worried about or is it probably what we think he sees in that other person that actually matters? While you still figuring that out (cause you probably don't even know why you keep revving yourself about it) I would like us to get involved in the looking - throw comments like "I think she's pretty" "Look at her behind - cute" "I don't really like the hairstyle though, I think if it was curled it would have been nice"
Let us know after a couple of times you engage him in light conversations about his observations. You will be surprised how much you will pick up to your advantage if you adopt this exercise! Remember, our goal is to arrive in a world of less heartaches & less offending behaviors. Your heart depends on you - you need to do everything in your power to protect it, he ain't going to do that for you!
Don't forget to keep looking at those hot guys too ;-)
Tamara Booi
Monday, June 28, 2010
"Go back a little to leap further"
I believe that at some point in our lives we will meet failure, but the most important part is to be able to bounce back from it. Some set-backs are clear-cuts and some are just too complex. Going bankrupt(for example) may tell you that you need to work harder to manage your finances - understand & accept that some things you cannot afford and adjust your lifestyle to suit your pocket.
However; do you ever feel that the things you thought you knew, you have to learn them again?
Yes, sometimes we have to take a few steps back and re-group to move forward. In my opinion, winning is a gratuity but wanting to win is everything. It is very hard to fail but it is even worse to realize that you never even attempted to succeed. You can use this approach in just about every aspect of your life - self building, work, family & relationships. Even those things you thought you have figured out, you might just have to learn them again.
Don't be afraid to fail - maybe by getting retrenched from your job you'll land on a better one. Accept that you have failed and move on to a new zone. What is tough though is the fact that we need to take those few steps back to understand why we failed in order to start moving forward. I know we all would like to just bury our past failures and move forward, not realizing that we might just step into the same road that got us to fail.
Maybe before we move on, we might have to say Good Morning to the fact that we no longer friends; Good Morning to the fact that you lost your job; Good Morning to the fact that you are not perfect; Good Morning to the fact that we no longer husband & wife; Good Morning to the fact that you are no longer an item. Good Morning to the fact that you lost a business deal...
Remember that there is hope for every situation. Just don't be afraid to fail - its part of the process.
Stay Positive!
Tamara Booi
However; do you ever feel that the things you thought you knew, you have to learn them again?
Yes, sometimes we have to take a few steps back and re-group to move forward. In my opinion, winning is a gratuity but wanting to win is everything. It is very hard to fail but it is even worse to realize that you never even attempted to succeed. You can use this approach in just about every aspect of your life - self building, work, family & relationships. Even those things you thought you have figured out, you might just have to learn them again.
Don't be afraid to fail - maybe by getting retrenched from your job you'll land on a better one. Accept that you have failed and move on to a new zone. What is tough though is the fact that we need to take those few steps back to understand why we failed in order to start moving forward. I know we all would like to just bury our past failures and move forward, not realizing that we might just step into the same road that got us to fail.
Maybe before we move on, we might have to say Good Morning to the fact that we no longer friends; Good Morning to the fact that you lost your job; Good Morning to the fact that you are not perfect; Good Morning to the fact that we no longer husband & wife; Good Morning to the fact that you are no longer an item. Good Morning to the fact that you lost a business deal...
Remember that there is hope for every situation. Just don't be afraid to fail - its part of the process.
Stay Positive!
Tamara Booi
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Beauty Benefits
Hey Ladies,
We all know that females in general have what I call 'benefits' of just being a woman - get seats first, don't open their own drinks, allowed to cry, have days that are named in recognition of them and the list goes on.
As if that is not enough, there are nuts on top of that ice cream - beauty benefits! I know a lot of my folks who are drop-dead beautiful and can't even get to pay a car-marshal for a parking fee. Certainly, these ladies require less effort in getting their way around most things in life - high profiled men, jobs, free entrance to events and even an innocent admiration from a mere stranger on the street (lets face it, that actually does make your day somehow).
Do you feel that you have to work extra hard to get where you want to be? Do you hold a number of University degrees but are on the same level with a beauty holding a six months diploma? Do you feel that you have to make an effort to dress up to look good - make-up, expensive clothes? Ladies, do you have to sit a man down and converse to get noticed (charm with your integrity)? Do you envy the beauty who are enjoying the finer things in life without having to sweat for them?
I know this is something that a lot of women lye about, we just don't want to admit that we are jealous of those pretty ladies. In my opinion, we were not shaped & 'colored' the same way but we can all feel beautiful! Beauty is in your confidence, it is the way you carry yourself, the way you walk & the way you love yourself. If we can learn to master these qualities & be mindful of how we were uniquely created - we would make a world of beautiful, awesome women.
I would like to hear your true stories, are you a beauty-hater? or are you a beauty yourself trying to figure out why you being hated or just enjoying it? Perhaps you've got what I call true beauty - confidence, integrity & loving yourself the way you are.
Let us know!
Tamara Booi
We all know that females in general have what I call 'benefits' of just being a woman - get seats first, don't open their own drinks, allowed to cry, have days that are named in recognition of them and the list goes on.
As if that is not enough, there are nuts on top of that ice cream - beauty benefits! I know a lot of my folks who are drop-dead beautiful and can't even get to pay a car-marshal for a parking fee. Certainly, these ladies require less effort in getting their way around most things in life - high profiled men, jobs, free entrance to events and even an innocent admiration from a mere stranger on the street (lets face it, that actually does make your day somehow).
Do you feel that you have to work extra hard to get where you want to be? Do you hold a number of University degrees but are on the same level with a beauty holding a six months diploma? Do you feel that you have to make an effort to dress up to look good - make-up, expensive clothes? Ladies, do you have to sit a man down and converse to get noticed (charm with your integrity)? Do you envy the beauty who are enjoying the finer things in life without having to sweat for them?
I know this is something that a lot of women lye about, we just don't want to admit that we are jealous of those pretty ladies. In my opinion, we were not shaped & 'colored' the same way but we can all feel beautiful! Beauty is in your confidence, it is the way you carry yourself, the way you walk & the way you love yourself. If we can learn to master these qualities & be mindful of how we were uniquely created - we would make a world of beautiful, awesome women.
I would like to hear your true stories, are you a beauty-hater? or are you a beauty yourself trying to figure out why you being hated or just enjoying it? Perhaps you've got what I call true beauty - confidence, integrity & loving yourself the way you are.
Let us know!
Tamara Booi
Wednesday, June 23, 2010
Plant a Tree
Hi Ladies,
Ronald Reaga once said - If today you invent a better mouse-trap, the government will come along with a better mouse. As human beings we invest our energies, money, health, time etc. into a whole lot of different things.
To those that are focusing on the past, be it job/business failure, loss of a loved one, loss of your self through relationship or marriage crash, loss of trust through friendship disappointments. You might even still be blaming your parents for not being able to give you a better life, still holding on to that anger to the point that you can't even see open doors in front of you. Probably questioning God about your poor background, lack of resources at your disposal - You are investing in the past - Let go!
To those that are focusing on the present, it may seem easier & fulfilling to live on today. Most people choose this route as it requires less effort & usually with less heartaches & disappointments. I personally would enjoy this route too however, I would not stick to it for long. Some people choose this route based on their past experiences & some just in denial of their need for help. No matter what situation that is making you live for today, if you are over 18 - Let go!
Today I would like us to start focusing on the future. Take all our failures, disappointments, loss, unhappiness and dig a bit hole in planting a tree. We can start the process by recognizing the key ingredient which is forgiveness. Forgive our parents for failing us, forgive the government for not reaching to rural areas enough for resources of our democracy to be accessed by all, forgive the universe for the loss of your child, forgive your partner for being petty, forgive your boss for having no eyes to see what's good in you and forgive yourself for your passion. You are better because all of that taught you how to live. If the Mandela's, the Hani's & the Biko's can forgive oppression surely we can rise above it all.
Bury those under your invention of a tree of hope. Keep watering it with your future successes & watch it as it grows big thick leaves.
Lastly, to those that just had a better life in all areas and the above do no make any sense at all - You are sitting under that shade because someone planted a tree long time ago! The duty is for you to keep watering so as to keep the shade for your own children.
Stay inspired!
Tamara Booi
Thursday, June 10, 2010
Who is a successful Woman?
This question always crop up in my mind at every women gathering I get to be. Women have so many opportunities and are continuously showing their capabilities as leaders and role models of our country – thanks to the ruling government.
Successful women are recognized; they are on magazines telling their stories, at public gatherings as motivational speakers, in communities as role models in different forms. Women are running their own businesses; they are corporate executives in large companies.
In my opinion, 99% of the above women desire to have their own families, at some point they want to get married and have children of their own. A CEO of a company can stay away on maternity leave for an average of 4months every 2nd year until she attain her desired number of children. She will then think her ‘house hold’ role is done not realizing that, this is when it begins. This woman is surely to miss some of her child’s growth development; she will not be able to keep up with her family’s desires for home cooked meals, clean ironed clothes, tidy house etc. This will lead to her sub-contracting her duties to a helper/domestic worker.
It is evident that women today have two major roles to accomplish that contradict each other - the challenge being what is perceived as success for them. Every woman strives to be successful however, not every woman can be a CEO and a CEO can never be a successful House Keeper. Women need to make peace with this fact. Women need to recognize their strengths and put their energies into making them to be well recognized.
Self esteem plays a major role in one’s life. Home makers view themselves as ‘just Moms and housewives’ which is a bit demeaning for such an accomplishment! Society needs to recognize this role and give it its deserving dignity. Home makers as well must enhance their self esteem by going to school, education is the best defense for any challenge that a woman may encounter. It is also the best weapon against remaining reliant on anyone about your welfare.
We all indisputably chasing success, but what is success mean for a woman?
I'd love to hear what you ladies think!
Stay Powerful
Tamara Booi
Successful women are recognized; they are on magazines telling their stories, at public gatherings as motivational speakers, in communities as role models in different forms. Women are running their own businesses; they are corporate executives in large companies.
In my opinion, 99% of the above women desire to have their own families, at some point they want to get married and have children of their own. A CEO of a company can stay away on maternity leave for an average of 4months every 2nd year until she attain her desired number of children. She will then think her ‘house hold’ role is done not realizing that, this is when it begins. This woman is surely to miss some of her child’s growth development; she will not be able to keep up with her family’s desires for home cooked meals, clean ironed clothes, tidy house etc. This will lead to her sub-contracting her duties to a helper/domestic worker.
It is evident that women today have two major roles to accomplish that contradict each other - the challenge being what is perceived as success for them. Every woman strives to be successful however, not every woman can be a CEO and a CEO can never be a successful House Keeper. Women need to make peace with this fact. Women need to recognize their strengths and put their energies into making them to be well recognized.
Self esteem plays a major role in one’s life. Home makers view themselves as ‘just Moms and housewives’ which is a bit demeaning for such an accomplishment! Society needs to recognize this role and give it its deserving dignity. Home makers as well must enhance their self esteem by going to school, education is the best defense for any challenge that a woman may encounter. It is also the best weapon against remaining reliant on anyone about your welfare.
We all indisputably chasing success, but what is success mean for a woman?
I'd love to hear what you ladies think!
Stay Powerful
Tamara Booi
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Happiness - an attitude?
Hi Ladies,
There are a lot of things that makes one happy - stability, money, family, success etc. one would argue. Recently I have been told that happiness is actually an attitude. Your own happiness depends entirely on you. This was very interesting for me & I thought I should share it with you.
I think the fact that we are more in touch with our emotions as women, we would find this concept very difficult. This does not mean there will not be any occurrence resulting in you being unhappy. However, in the event that you experience sadness, disappointment, failure, loss & all that is associated with unhappiness - you choose to be HAPPY!
This is a process that I personally would like to adopt. It will surely require a little bit of selfishness, which is one of the things that most women struggle with - to be selfish. Authentically we were not created to be selfish but obedient; but we were not created to be sad, hurt or unhappy either.
Is happiness an attitude?
Tamara Booi
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