They say the better you are as a Mother, the less needed you
will be in the long run. I somewhat
believe in this theory. If you have
instilled the values you hope to see in your child, you will always be around
even if you are not physically there. What
still stands out to me about my Mother is a sense of belief she had in who I
was to become. She always told me that
there is nothing I cannot be. “Ndixolele
uba nepeynti enye ndimane ndiyihlamba ebusuku” (Even if it means I own just one
pair of panties & wash them every night) was one of her famous hilarious
linesJ. She believed in me to a point that sometimes I’d
think…is this woman for real… I remember
when I matriculated, I came home and I told her that I wanted to go study in
Cape Town. The woman had barely half of
the fees required at University level but she said “You are going.” and I
went.
My Mom is a very quiet and reserved woman, but she is the
funniest person ever! Her humor is not
your usual “Stand up Comedy” or “I am funny” type. She will crack you up in the most strangest
of ways, and leave you laughing all by yourself. Today I would like to celebrate this
incredible woman! The woman who raised and
nurtured me to the best of her abilities.
Growing up as a child it was just a ‘nice thing’ to have a Mother. Being a Mother myself, now I understand what
it takes to be a parent. To have someone
that you are responsible for. A life
that looks up to you for guidance and direction.
The beauty about being an African child, I am blessed with
more than one Mother. Almost all the
incredible women in my family played a role of a Mother to me. The entire village where I grew up
contributed in one way or another in shaping the kind of woman I am today. I salute these women! This Mother’s Day, may the good Lord bless
you with a world of abundant wisdom. May
you live longer to continue to be a blessing to others.
To my friends who are Mothers – We soldier on MommiesJ! Sometimes it’s not easy, but it’s the most
fulfilling gift ever. One of my greatest
moments as a Mother is when I come back home in the afternoon. My children are always happy to see me. They’ll run to the car like little puppies,
with so much joy in their eyes shouting “Mama”. It doesn’t matter how I stumbled throughout
my day trying to figure out life, there are two little people who thinks I’m
just great.
To all children, remember that having a Mother is a blessing
not all of us have. Some children lost
their Mothers early in their lives. Some
have never met their Mothers. Some are looking
and still go to bed longing to be reunited with their Mothers. Appreciate and embrace your Moms for who they
are. One of the things I learnt very
early in life is that – you cannot choose family. What is wonderful though is that you can
choose and shape your own family to be what you wish you had. Remember if you sit and cry over what you
never had, you not only creating a ‘sorry’ life for yourself. You are contributing to a recurring failing
system in your family. Make a detour and
be the change you want to see. If you
had a Motherless childhood, make sure that you are the best version of a Mother
to your own children. Be a woman of
change! Break the cycle! It can start with you!
Until next time – Happy Mother’s Day to all Mothers
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