Avoid having too much Spare Time!

Every human being needs a ‘do without’ time every now and then; but too much of it can result in some evil spirits such as: boredom, vice, immorality & need.

Ladies, this is one of the hazards towards our mental health and personal growth. Give your body the rest it requires but the minute you feel you are knocking at “wonderland’s” door you should know that you are bored. Boredom can make you do a lot of foolish things – like phoning your ex’s; stalking your partner & even stalking other women’s partners. According to SAP stats, boredom is also counted amongst results for crime by young people. It is also mentioned in stats of infidelity in relationships.

Too much spare time may also be a result of your comfort in what you know. You don’t feel the need to know more; which may result in you staying junior – psychologically & intellectually.

It is also alleged that too much spare time result in immorality. Behaviors like sexual obsession; excessive masturbation; rape; sexual illusion; wickedness & dishonesty.

Lastly; the most common evil spirit in women resulted from too much spare time is feeling needy. This has damaged a lot of good relationships that most women have. Do you always feel that your partner has to be with you all the time? Do you always get frustrated if your man wants to go & do things without you? Do you always notice & complain about petty faults in your relationship? Do you always want to be called, assured that you are loved, notice the difference between 17h30 and 17h35? Are you always available?

Ladies; it is important that a woman has an agenda for every single day. Even if you park by the beach & have ice-cream by yourself. Women turn to think that at 5 o’clock its when our mental activities stop. We have got so much talents that we don’t know about because we busy thinking that other people are suppose to complete us.

Take on a new sport; join a book club; take lessons on a different language; go for cooking lessons; figure out your other talents; be active at your church & a whole lot of other things that may interest you. Fill up your schedule with exciting activities. Break the work-home-eat-sleep routine!

You will be amazed how this will create a satisfying feeling of self ownership and having to sleep knowing where you invested your daily time. Your comments on the social networks will be about what you’ve done or learnt for the day & less of what you are wearing & how sleepy you feel. You will also realize how attractive you are...all of a sudden... An unavailable woman increases the urge to chase in men.

When you do find those things that interests you; be ready to be stingy with your time. Some people who still have too much spare time can make you lose focus; do not tolerate mediocrity. Tolerating mediocrity in others increases the mediocrity in you. Learn to say “no”; practice saying “I will have to meet you after my choir practice”. If one really wants to see you, he will respect your time. The way we are so needy of other people especially men; it’s like they going out of fashion; need to get them while stock last. Forgetting that men don’t lose sight of their attraction; if you are the one he will sure be at the gate waiting for you after your hockey practice.

Stop the nag & Get busy!



Tamara Booi