Are you?
Ladies; this is a common phrase used by most women at the beginning of their relationships and some feel like this for the entire duration of an affair/marriage. I'm sure we all have experienced being in-love and yes, me too have uttered the words - "I think I'm in-love" at least until I understood the actual meaning of being in-love.
It used to puzzle me why this phrase have a phase; why can one feel like this always? As I continue to mature, I noticed that this phrase is rather absent in adulthood which made me to make it my project to understand why. Through my research; I got a huge response about 'love fades away' and that 'an old relationship has more to offer than just love, one should not base everything on love' which made me even more worried as I so much love 'love'
I then discovered that; being in-love actually is a poor way of heading your relationship! Oh yes! Feelings of being 'in-love' are associated with being hooked; infatuated; being obsessed; even possessed; they are associated with being love-stuck. I don't think any man would enjoy being involved with the kind of woman above. Every individual requires a level of mental freedom and a woman in-love in my opinion, have less ability to provide that. I then concluded that the proper way of heading your relationship is to love your partner! Loving is associated with adorable feelings; caring; finding your partner irresistible; respect and passion for your partner.
Now would you rather love your partner or be in-love with him?
Until next time,
Keep loving!
Tamara Booi
This is a very good topic i must say. In actual fact its something i have been ponding over for a while now.the only conclusion i made is that in order to have a successful relationship you need to be willing to gamble with your heart, gambling means that there are no guarantees that you will win.so either or love or in-love with your partner there's still that chance that he will brake your heart.its something we have to deal with its a fact.
ReplyDeleteI would rather love my partner any day because to me love is not something I associate with feelings, feelings after some time die and if your love was based on that, your relationship/ marriage will not survive.
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