On Sharing

Often we are too reluctant to realize the importance of sharing in our growth processes. Those who know me well would tell how much of a believer I am in sharing. Sharing has played a huge role in just about all areas of my life. Personally, it gives me power as often I turn to gather a lot of knowledge, expertize, contacts, wisdom, mentors, answers & great friendships.

Ironically; women are perceived as the most 'sharing' gender... as it were, but our 'sharing' is evidently still far away from building each other or even building something together. One would argue about giving away your ideas or posting your affairs to the world. Sharing knowledge & wisdom should not be seen as giving people something to get something out - it should be seen as genuine people interested in helping one another in developing new capacities for action, it is about creating learning processes.

Like our fingers - we are different and were blessed with different talents, raised in different ways and had different opportunities in life. Some are ordinary & some are extraordinary. What is interesting for me though is, within every ordinary person you can find some extraordinary things. If you stay ordinary, comfortably without sharing what is wonderful or appalling about your world - you will never learn what the extraordinary world is doing.

You might have a great idea on how you can start your own business & you may not believe how it does not take off as every part of your body is telling you how wonderful it is. You might just need to share it with someone - you will be surprised how that could turn out - you might just meet someone who is clueless about ideas but knows how to make money & you become a great pair! The most often times women share their ideas is when they need funding - which is mostly sharing with people who will give them money to run a project & nothing on how they will sustain the project to generate their own money. Tell me if I'm wrong, there are people we just cannot speak to about things - because they are 'ordinary' forgetting that there might be something 'extraordinary' in them. I would personally rather take that person with to the bank to ask for funding, for I would have sourced my basis of business muscle. I would furthermore be fulfilled as an individual as I would have brought about change - exposed the ordinary to extraordinary world.

In relationships, women suffer from stress related illnesses which can result in poor performance at the work place, unkindness to people, unpleasantness & arrogance. Your sole knows nothing else except the mediocrity boiling inside you. Your lack of wisdom is holding you back from talking because you think you the only one suffering from a particular challenge. Sharing will not solve your problem, but it will sure give you power and ability to deal with them or perhaps give you answers to some of the questions you might have.

Have you ever been new in a company full of petty individual who make it a project to lock you away from knowledge! People who are happy with what they know, not intelligent enough to open up to what they could learn from you. If you are one of those - consider change! By giving others knowledge you are setting yourself up for new & greater capabilities; you will not see any if you are caught up with what you already know.

Keep sharing!


Tamara Booi